DO I KNOW YOU?

Wow!! Great responses.

To my first anonymous, your comments are much appreciated, nice to know I still inspire a crush. You are right on point, the trillion dollar question is, do they KNOW me? For that matter, for all of us men and women out there, do your lovers really KNOW us? Hell! Do we KNOW them? Are they taking the time? Are we taking the time? Before the lust sets in, or even after? I had a conversation with a friend about his dissatisfaction with his girlfriend....here's the thing, the word friend is there for good reason. Be the friend first.

This person needs to be your friend first, also, take the time to know what happened in their previous relationship and yes (second anonymous) COMMUNICATE with him/her. DO YOUR RESEARCH!! (Go to donotdatehim.com :-), hehe) If somebody has broken hearts piled up behind them chances are they will break yours too! Doing your research will mean that she/he did not get a crack at yours because you found this out before! I WISH I had spoken to the exes, I would have just had a FRIEND who's a heartbreaker! Or maybe you'll just jump in anyway, because you believe you can change him/her.....NOT!

Also dear God, I cannot stress this enough to my female friends out there.......If he's cheating on her to be with you, then he WILL cheat on you to be with someone else! You did not WIN, they are not the goddamn lotto!

Even worse..... is the person who they hurt parked outside the house with a "cutliss" right now waiting for your ass to just "make their day"?

Try this exercise, look at your current lover and say (to yourself please, or else you'll get the "you're weird" look

)do I KNOW you?

Let me hear from ya!!

Jamaican Dawta - Fed Up

I really try not to dislike men, instead look at them as if they are not responsible for the malfunctions that go on in their brain. Unfortunately there are two men in my life that I have to deal with for the rest of my life, as I have children for both..........Dear God why?

Sometimes I feel that relationships are just too hard. What do I need for a man for again? If you think about it the very thing that we need them for, procreation.......... can be had via anonymous donor, and inserted without having him in on the action. Therefore = less stress. Not that I don't love sex, but sometimes the man comes along with it and......really, it's so exhausting!

I know, ladies, you say to yourself, what about companionship, intimacy, the feel of another human being? Valid points all, but ask yourself, especially as you get older, is the stress worth it? Is being alone the same as being lonely? Can't you be lonely in the middle of a relationship? Is alone the worst thing in the world?

Give me your thoughts why dontcha?

Introduction to the Ja'can Dawta

This is me, the Ja'can Dawta - a little about myself - Black, 40ish, single, and OPINIONATED!! (Oh God, didn't that sound like a personal ad)? anyway, I'm ready to talk about everything under the sun, no subject is taboo for me....lemme hear from you!

You notice how after some of us turn 40 we can't stay out late anymore? I came home at 4:00am the other day, after not doing that for about 3 years, and it took me two days to catch up on my sleep!! Please don't tell me about exercising more, the exercise that I get from walking to the train is QUITE enough thank you very much; plus, I think sweat only goes with strenuous sex so save your damn breath!

If anybody can feel me pain, let's talk, dammit!!